As childish as it may seem, crying helps a lot! It eases the mind like anything. In fact, I realize that venting helps to start afresh. A few days ago, I found my mind cluttered with all kinds of things - hurtful comments, bad fights, wrong accusations. These things have a way of creeping into your mind and growing like a crazy weed. I was thinking in a loop . These thoughts just wouldn't go away. They played and replayed till it hurt me anew. And there was no one at the moment to hear me out. Nor was I sure if I wanted to let someone else see these personal ghosts.
I got a book and a pen and I wrote and wrote till my hand ached. The words just came out. It was like taking dictations from somebody. I did not pause for even a second to collect my thoughts. I was so brimming with these emotions that they came oozing out. I had filled up six sides and when my hand stopped receiving signals naturally, all my worries were on the paper.
When I re read them, I was amazed at how much I was holding back. The pain, the hurt, the stress slipped away and I was feeling lighter. I haven't looked back at that writing again.
Some say scribbling hard helps, some say destroying something helps, and some more say screaming helps. Dealing with it in this manner, transforms your discomfort into something tangible. They just give you a temporary outlet to your current emotions; they do not free you from them. To truly cleanse your mind, that bad stuff needs to be out of your system, transferred onto/ into something that goes away. Cry it out. Let the steam out. Let your worries dissolve in tears or words and see them off.
Try it. It might succeed in taking some miseries off your life.
Purnima, I always write down too.It has helped me immensely. Crying helps too, when there is no strength to write down.
ReplyDeleteHow true! A moment of weakness maybe; but it gives a lot of strength to endure what's to come later.
DeleteI totally agree with you Purnima.. sometimes so many things are going in my mind and I feel bad and hurt but then I silently close the door and cry I feel so light.. even as you said when I am too angry or hurt I prefer to write then speak.. If I speak I will end up fighting but if I write it helps me forget..
ReplyDeleteit's better than leaving the feelings in there, allowing it to take shape? true!
Deleteare you reading 'Artist's way' ?
ReplyDeletethe author became highly popular because of this book and well known for her 'morning-pages'
no I am not. In fact this is the first time I have heard about "Artist's way" :)
DeleteI always write down what I feel or talk to myself if no one is around to listen..and I do cry a lot when I am upset...venting out is a very relieving experience - much better than bottling things up inside
ReplyDeletebottling may feel like a way, just to keep others happy. But in a long run, it startss to impact you negatively
DeleteI agree completely. And then, when it was all out, I decided to write on my blog - and make others cry/scream. :P :P
ReplyDeleteWhat's up, how've you been? Hop on over sometimes when you feel like it, might be a welcome change from straining your own fingers, know what I mean?
Take care - things eventually work out. Some way or the other. Cheer up. :)
I agree completely. And then, when it was all out, I decided to write on my blog - and make others cry/scream. :P :P
ReplyDeleteWhat's up, how've you been? Hop on over sometimes when you feel like it, might be a welcome change from straining your own fingers, know what I mean?
Take care - things eventually work out. Some way or the other. Cheer up. :)
....or you could visit my blog and see how I make others cry or scream. :P
ReplyDeleteI agree about the writing part. That's why I started spreading the 'love' on my blog. Collective therapy you could say. :P :P
Come on over sometimes, girl. How's the little one? Things eventually work out. Trust me. Cheer up now. :)
I so wanted to be up with all the blogs I really like... but I have been lazy. I was down the other day, but now I am in good spirits. :) will come hopping by
DeleteThat's good..and it felt good to have you back on the blog.
Delete(Errr...I've no idea how my comment got repeated so many times. Maybe you could delete the extra ones?)
hey! i know am commenting very late here..*hugs* hope you are doing fine...write away or cry away all the negative feelings..helps a lot..
ReplyDeleteyes it does... :)
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